Tuesday, September 6, 2011

All This Time

There you are!
And all this time
I thought you were hiding.
Yes, you.
You thought I didn't notice,
didn't you?
Are you afraid?
I'm still human.
I'm still living.
Your children
don't make me
less of a person.
Even though
I've been waiting
all this time.


Anonymous said...

I know!! It amazes me how people think if they just stay away you somehow won't notice that they are sitting just a table away at a wedding or happen to be in the same ladies' section at shul on Simchas Torah....

Some people just don't know how to deal with uncomfortable encounters and would rather pretend it isn't happening. It's no excuse though, and I've been on the receiving end of it myself (being a single 30 something). I've come to the point where I can honestly say, that I don't know how I'd be acting if our situations were reversed. I can only hope I'd be sensitive enough to treat the other person normally. I have definitely learned a lot about how to treat others because of my current situation in life.

Soul Comfort said...

I totally understand them... It just hurts, you know?
And I was always the kind of person to go over to anyone and say hi, no matter how uncomfortable it made me feel. So though I understand them, I can still say with almost full certainty that I would never act that way.

Devorah said...

It is so so painful to be ignored and treated as if you don't exist.

It happens a lot when people don't know how to react to someone in a difficult situation. They think that by avoiding the other person they wont end up having any conversation and then they'll save themselves from saying the wrong thing. But people don't want to be ignored!
Come over, talk, and if you aren't sure what to say just don't say something stupid.

It's a feeling I've experienced before and wish upon you that soon people will have so many nice and happy things to say to you that this wont be an issue at all!

JerusalemStoned said...

After my fathe died, someone crossed the street to avoid me. The next day, she came over to me from across the park. I admire her. It's not easy sometimes. You feel embarrassed of your own riches in the face of someone else's loss or lack...